I see this topic come up every so often on other forums and it seems to be an incredibly polarizing issue. There are some who swear up and down that human relationships were never meant to be monogamous and there are others who are content with one partner or feel that they are too jealous for an open relationship to work. Personally, I think open relationships are hogwash. That isn't to say that there aren't open relationships that are perfectly functional, it just seems to me that in a typical heterosexual relationship the scales are completely unbalanced.
The sales pitch for an open relationship is that both partners have equal opportunity to tame some strange. While this is technically true in a vacuum, in reality it's complete and utter horse shit. This is due entirely to inequity in the dating market, and that's something I don't think many women understand or even think about. I'd wager that more often than not one partner is going to be pulling more tail than the other, and this will no doubt be a source of resentment lest you have emotions of steel or no emotions at all. Unless you're exceptionally attractive, courting someone when you're a man is work, it's an uphill battle. In an age where people are trying their fucking hardest to do away with gender norms, one gender norm has conveniently gone unaddressed. That is the expectation of men to be the initiators. Putting yourself out there like that requires either a lot of courage or complete indifference to rejection. On the other hand, waiting for dick to come to you (which, let's be real, is what happens) is about as courageous as being a baited mouse trap. Dick is a buyer's market.
I'm interested in hearing the perspective of those of a different sexual orientation. I assume homosexuals that are in an open relationship are on much more equal footing, at least before physical attractiveness comes into play.
What does Minus World think about open relationships? Would you ever be in one? Have you ever been in one? How did it go?
The sales pitch for an open relationship is that both partners have equal opportunity to tame some strange. While this is technically true in a vacuum, in reality it's complete and utter horse shit. This is due entirely to inequity in the dating market, and that's something I don't think many women understand or even think about. I'd wager that more often than not one partner is going to be pulling more tail than the other, and this will no doubt be a source of resentment lest you have emotions of steel or no emotions at all. Unless you're exceptionally attractive, courting someone when you're a man is work, it's an uphill battle. In an age where people are trying their fucking hardest to do away with gender norms, one gender norm has conveniently gone unaddressed. That is the expectation of men to be the initiators. Putting yourself out there like that requires either a lot of courage or complete indifference to rejection. On the other hand, waiting for dick to come to you (which, let's be real, is what happens) is about as courageous as being a baited mouse trap. Dick is a buyer's market.
I'm interested in hearing the perspective of those of a different sexual orientation. I assume homosexuals that are in an open relationship are on much more equal footing, at least before physical attractiveness comes into play.
What does Minus World think about open relationships? Would you ever be in one? Have you ever been in one? How did it go?