This post was last modified: Jun 20, 2022 at 1:25 PM by
Reeb.
I wanted to add a quick addendum and felt like it was best to do so here without making a whole-ass unnecesary new thread to do it.
My earlier post was made in an emotional frenzy and I came off to several people like I was unstable or had been slighted.
I had
not been slighted. I was unstable, but that was on me; my emotions run out of control sometimes, and this was one of those times. I was told the truth and got deeply upset because I hate it when I go to bat for people and don't feel like I did good enough or misrepresented the ailing party in some way.
Nothing was said to me that would've been out of place in a normal disagreement, but I catastrophized into thinking that everyone even vaguely involved with this affair hated me, and I was being, frankly, a complete idiot melting down. I still agree with the majority of the points I made and that I need to be a more staunch ally and look into things proactively instead of only coming in when a threat is present.
As already stated on Discord, I won't be taking a break, though my posting might slow down for a while. I've already spoken with some of the people I didn't do right by, and elaborated some on my position and where I was coming from, which are statements I don't feel like putting on Minus World in case there are still bad actors roving about. In talking to people, there were no catastrophes or falling-outs like I was telling myself there'd be.
On a more thread-relevant note, Money's proposal is a good one but I don't think that we should take on the burden of "needing" to provide a space where this kind of attitude can prevail. Minus World is a good place to make a melting pot but consider that when you grew up and stopped being shitty, a common argument I've been seeing thrown around for keeping people who might be harmful around, you were more likely than not surrounded by others doing the same gradually and being introduced to marginalized communities slowly but surely, not going places with the intent of seeking out those communities. I think the circumstances differ. If someone comes here broadcasting their beliefs and one of their first moves is to poke at a transitioning community member, I don't agree we should wait until they've had time to find out private information before taking action.